Updated: Apr 19, 2020
As we find ourselves heading into our sixth week of isolation, I can’t help but notice that the way we experience reality is changing. One thing has struck me profoundly: time seems to not exist. It doesn’t matter if it’s a Monday, or a Saturday. So I’ve decided, why not dive into it and make believe every day is Saturday.
I know. I know. You still have reflections and flashbacks of what a Monday feels like and you can’t fight it because you are struggling with the part of you that needs it to be Monday. But maybe ask yourself, why were Mondays so miserable? Is it because you had to go to work everyday to a job that wasn’t satisfying? Or maybe you liked your job, but the idea (belief) of what Monday represents (end of my freedom for another five days) is still activated and the mere knowledge that it’s a Monday is impacting your mood and setting the tone for your day?
Think about this: Haven’t we all been saying forever, get me off this hamster wheel? And while this situation in which we find ourselves is probably less about the Universe granting us that particular wish, and much more about a need for us to just STOP going down the trajectory we were headed, we find it difficult to accept this incredible opportunity, this gift, where time has literally stopped for us.
The loss of time and structure can be especially challenging for my OCD friends out there who thrive, no demand order and structure to create their calm and control. But think about that for a moment and go deep into it. Ask yourself why you need that control and order. Maybe you’ll discover some of the underlying beliefs that are driving your need to know what day it is, like: I need to know what’s happening next. Change is scary. Structure makes me safe. I don’t like change. I don’t like to be alone with my self. And then ask yourself why you don’t you like to be alone with yourself, and so on. This is an incredible process, and through these questions you can really start to see how you got where you are. And then, the beautiful part, as I say to my clients, is ask yourself what you want instead? And viola, you’ve taken the first steps into creating your reality.
Look, I am not for one second ignoring there is a real situation that is happening right now, so please forgive me if I sound insensitive. I am extremely sensitive. People are scared. People are dying. (I lost two people within the last two weeks, not directly to this situation but indirectly.) I also understand many people are carrying a tremendous financial burden, but we cannot remain in a perpetual state of fear about what “could” happen as that only perpetuates the probability of it happening. We are all in this together. The world around us will have to change to address this situation. And we change the world around us by changing ourselves first.
If I’m honest, I’d have to say I have found this to be one of the most extraordinary times of my life. I have fallen in love with “being” because I’ve had the time to actually experience it. Even though I finally don’t have to get up with an alarm, and can sleep as late as I want, I find myself wanting to get up as early as possible so I don’t miss one minute of the day, and at night I don’t want to go to sleep because I don’t want the day—which seems to absolutely fly by— to end.
I have been outside every opportunity talking to birds, and bees and flowers and trees, doing yoga with the sun in my face. The beauty of nature makes me cry. I’m playing the piano and singing. I’m writing. I am meditating. And, of course, I am scanning my emotions to see where there is resistance and doing PSYCH-K balances as needed.
I hope you can take advantage of this wonderful gift of time to discover what you want more of and what you need to let go. To see things as they really are. To honor yourself. And experience true peace and joy.
Love to you all.